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Why Making Mistakes is Imperative for our Well-being

9th February 2024

 

Take a moment to consider how many mistakes you have made today.  If we are scrupulously honest this may be confronting, disappointing or salutary.  Admittedly, mistakes can be problematic, and even painful but the alternative renders us like automatons. 

Is there really a link between making mistakes and our wellbeing?

The Cambridge Dictionary defines mistake as an actiondecision, or judgment that produces an unwanted or unintentional result.’  This should resonate with us because being wrong does not equate to failure. It is not shameful, stupid or necessarily permanent. They don’t signal a lack of ability, indifference, indolence or flawed character traits.

Mistakes happen when we misjudge a step and take a tumble, eat too much spicy food at a party, inadvertently disclose a secret, harbour unrealistic expectations, speed when late for an appointment, misjudge someone on first impression – the list is limitless. And the very reason it IS limitless is because we are living beings. Consider the famous mistakes made which were deemed beneficial such as Post It Notes, made in an attempt to make strong adhesives, the microwave oven, penicillin, x-rays, tea bags, pacemakers, Velcro and even Coke- a-Cola.  We have all heard tales of business leaders even actively encouraging risk taking employees to make mistakes as this is both a sign of imagination and striving to improve. It’s vital in the areas of medicine, science, music, art and in education we try to model the learning struggle by acknowledging mistakes and how these can be insightful, rather than condemning or ignoring them.  As educationalists, we are committed to learning. It’s the rationale for our professional existence. We champion life-long learning and, in every context, emphasise the significance of trying. There is no learning without mistakes. At ISWA we champion ‘growth mindsets.’

So, why is it that making mistakes contributes to our wellbeing?

They deepen our self- knowledge. When we reflect upon a mistake, we can spot our own prejudices and biases. This process can engender humility as it encourages us to recognise our shortcomings. Analysing mistakes can lead us to embrace different beliefs and feed our curiosity. Oftentimes it can lead us to being more realistic. If we’re honest and willing to change it can result in us being more responsible. 

In fact, the experts at Headspace argue that ‘It would be healthier and more accurate to think that admitting when you’re wrong affirms something positive —that you are confident and well-reasoned, and that you won’t let your ego get in the way of a good idea.’

If we do not make mistakes, some things that can happen are:

  • Our creativity is limited.
  • Change does not happen.
  • We miss out on so many experiences.
  • We can be over reliant on assumptions rather than upon asking questions/interrogating our beliefs.
  • We may be plagued by regret over lost opportunities.
  • We remain in ignorance which is universally acknowledged as being dangerous.

It’s all right to be wrong. Mistakes need not threaten our sense of self or confidence. Mistakes can connect us with others, Mistakes can fuel development.  If we continually strive to learn and improve in the wake of mistakes, at the end of each day, we can feel justifiably proud of having TRIED.

The Well-Being Benefits of Learning New Skills

2nd February 2024

Navigating New Waters

Take a moment to think about the last new skill you learned.  How did you feel about the challenge?  What strategies did you use to overcome any difficulties you experienced?  How did you feel about mastering the skill and in what ways have you incorporated it into your life since?

Aside from the vital skill of learning to read, for which many of us are eternally grateful and which was an entrée into a myriad magical world, leaning to swim is an essential skill for those of us living around the fringes of this large island continent. 

As our Primary Head of School Paul O’Brien explained in last week’s Newsletter acquiring this skill is fundamental for survival, but also to engage in many opportunities in life here. He cogently explained the additional benefits it brings such as enhanced communication and problem solving.

What, then, is the relationship between acquiring a new skill, such as swimming, and wellbeing

The Importance of 'Having a go!'

It could be argued that across the span of our lives, beginning in uterine, we are continually growing, adapting, evolving, and changing.  That’s one of the wonders of being alive.  To what extent, though, do we take time to reflect upon these things or are we inclined to take them for granted?

One compelling argument for learning new skills is that it can be enormously enjoyable in both more formal contexts, such as schools, but also in all other aspects of our lives.  Learning how to ride a bike can be just as thrilling and liberating as crafting an argumentative essay.

Of course, embarking upon new skill learning takes courage and can be a risk.  Not all of us can collaborate successfully to write a hit musical, paint as sublimely as Monet or play English Premier League level football but ‘having a go’ helps us feel positive and proud of our efforts.  These experiences can also reveal to us previously unknown strengths, such as creativity. and provide the incentive for us to tap into our potential.

Seeking out the Positive

Learning in relation to others, in these ways, results in a greater likelihood that we will appreciate alternative perspectives.  Logically, such cooperation engenders empathy, inclusivity, and respect.  If more people exposed themselves to those different to themselves and improved their understanding of alternative beliefs, values, cultures, languages, and histories, we may have a more peaceful, harmonious world.

Unquestioningly, life be unexpected, mystifying and even incredibly distressing.  If we stubbornly maintain a laser-like focus on searching out the good, on continual learning and on embracing each opportunity to make an effort, the likelihood is that, not only will we become dolphin-like swimmers, but we will fight off the deleterious consequences of stress, and thrive.

How FUN Fosters Well-Being

25th January 2024

Try asking people what FUN means to them – how they recognise it in others, how they feel it themselves and to describe the circumstances in which fun manifests.  It’s tricky.  Universal definitions of ‘fun’ don’t exist, nor is it something that can be readily quantified, but we all know when we’re experiencing fun. 

The Colour of Fun

Friday afternoon, January 19, was fun.  Why?  Because our entire ISWA school community joined together, with a tangible, meaningful goal, to participate in some (colourful), laugh- out- loud fun. Doing something so counterintuitive i.e., breaching the rules of etiquette and civility by targeting others with ‘paint’’, mucking up, not concerning ourselves with grubbing our clothing, stimulated laughter.  It offered us permission to see each other in a novel context, to witness different aspects of our personalities and to ‘step outside’ our normal personas.  We had a licence to play up; we were sanctioned to be naughty.  

Catherine Price, author of The Power of Fun: How to Feel Alive Again, and a science writer, says that rather than just being “frivolous”, fun is absolutely essential for our mental and physical health. How having more fun can enrich your relationship .  Price proposes that fun ‘counters the harmful effects of stress and isolation, both of which raise the levels of the stress hormone, cortisol’.  Consistently raised levels of cortisol can predispose us to some diseases. “When we have fun, we’re socially connected and relaxed, both of which lower cortisol levels,” Price says. Her beliefs about fun, comprising three elements, ‘playfulness, connection and flow’ are the result of discussions with people across the world about moments when they experienced the most fun.  (Why having fun is the secret to a healthier life ) TED Talk.

 

A Fun Research Topic

It seems contrived to try and justify/explain the advantages of fun but ample evidence exists.   Fun fosters and enhances our relationships.  It can eliminate barriers to communication, develop trust and encourage empathy. Whether we participate in spontaneous fun or willingly collaborate in more ‘planned’ fun, we’re taking risks.  We’re tossing aside the shackles of the norm and the predictable and adopting alternative guises.  This can be revealing and allow others to then view us through different lenses, perhaps more curiously, more compassionately and as fellow, flawed humans.  We’re reminded that even though fun can have many historical, cultural, regional and even religious underpinnings, there is also a certain universality to it.  Who can resist the contagious giggles of young children in moments of flow whilst safe, loved and at play.    

Doris Bergen, a professor at Miami University’s Department of Educational Psychology in ‘Want resilient and well-adjusted kids?  Let them playis quoted as saying that: “Play is one of the main ways that children really consolidate their learning. The way we really make our skills permanent and enriched and highly developed, is often through our play experiences.”

Dr Stuart Brown, founder of the National Institute for Play in the USA, reminds us, though that play is “…not frivolous and not just for kids, but something that is an inherent part of human nature.”  The authors of: The importance of adult play explain that play ‘…  fuels imagination, creativity, problem-solving abilities, and emotional well-being.’ Travis Tae Oh Ph.D. in  What is the underlying psychology of having fun posits that ‘…an essential characteristic of fun is the sense of liberation a state of hedonic engagement…’ with enjoyment as the only intended goal.  This view is corroborated by Mike Rucker (How to start having more fun)   an organisational psychologist, and behavioural scientist who cites the ‘hedonic flexibility principle’ investigated by scientists at MIT, Harvard, Stanford (2016). 

The consistent message from the experts, then, is to dismiss any pre-existing notions we may have about fun being unproductive or unimportant.  It was clear at our ‘Colour Run’ that fun can be not only memorable but terrifically enjoyable.

Perhaps our wellbeing would benefit from intentionally aiming for MORE FUN every day.

The Power of Habits: A new year, a new you?

19th January 2024

At the beginning of each new year, many of us are tempted to set noble goals which we are convinced will improve our health, relationships, financial status and general prospects in life. For this reason, it was very timely that our partners in the Visible Wellbeing (VWB) programme returned to ISWA on Monday, January 15 to facilitate staff training on the final pathway of the S.E.A.R.C.H. model, ‘Habits and Goals’.

We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t all grapple with what are considered ‘bad’ habits.  Examples of these range from: nail biting, procrastination, skipping breakfast, stereotyping, gambling, swearing, gossiping, walking whilst staring into a phone, keeping other people waiting, smoking, watching endless episodes of Netflix series late into the night – the options are endless!

Defining the Habit

But, what is a habit?  James Clear, author of the widely quoted ‘Atomic Habits’ (2018) explains them as: ‘The small decisions made, and actions performed every day’.  Clear cites researchers at Duke University, to explain that ‘…habits account for about 40 percent of our behaviors on any given day’.  Encyclopedia Britannica defines habits as ‘Any regularly repeated behaviour that requires little or no thought and is learned rather than innate’.  It makes sense, then, that what we think, believe, do, and how our lives unfold are the result of our habits.

How are habits connected to our wellbeing?

If our lives had no structure and no predictability, things would be too chaotic to manage. Habits, like routines, can keep us, and the wider world, safe and healthy.  Examples of these are fastening car seat belts, maintaining sleep patterns, speaking kindly to ourselves, recycling and attending to our pets. Habits such as flossing, smiling when we greet people, slapping on sunblock, wearing bike helmets, and factoring in vegetables to our meals are constructive habits that contribute purposefully to our wellbeing.

Constantly relying on our willpower to make a multitude of decisions each day is a sheer impossibility.  Habits are a way of reducing variability allowing us to be more consistent.  Folklore about ex-US President Barack Obama is that he only ever wore grey or blue suits because this minimized the minor decisions he needed to make each day providing him greater ‘mental space’ for the internationally important issues of his leadership.  Being fatigued because of making insignificant decisions could have sapped all his energy.

Unleashing the Power of Self-Awareness and Positive Reinforcement

We can optimise our own strengths when creating new habits or dispensing with bad ones.  We can practice forgiving ourselves, spend time with people who care about us, express our emotions, relax using mindfulness, immerse ourselves in hobbies, skills and passions.  We can ‘habit hack’ by tagging new habits onto existing, constructive ones, such as being consciously grateful when we are provided delicious, wholesome food.  Although, according to Lally, Van Jaarsveld, Potts and Wardle (2010), it can take an average of 66 days to embed a new habit (generally between 18 – 254 days), we learned through our VWB programme that successful goal striving is a major predictor of wellbeing and that the longer the practice, the better the habit (Lowenstein, Price and Volpp 2016)

Clearly, habits are learned behaviours which can be unlearned so it’s useful to have an awareness of how our habits work by identifying the cues and rewards.  Divorcing from an unproductive habit requires the motivation to change.  Additionally, cravings can drive our behaviours so it’s worth reflecting upon what we get out of maintaining our habits.  Rewards can be powerful if they satisfy cravings.  Socrates famously said: “To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom and this is what is required to begin battling habits. Being conscious of our cues and rewards means we can begin regaining control over habits.  If we want to consume less ‘junk’ food or empty calories, we need to figure out whether it’s actually the McDonalds sundae we crave or the company of friends after school. Is the ‘reward’ satisfying hunger or is it about socialising?  Arming ourselves with the knowledge that ‘Habit loops’ consist of: cue → routine behavior → reward (meaning we’re more likely to repeat the habit) is crucial.  Behaviors with affirming consequences, attention and activities tend to be repeated until they become automatic.  Self- awareness, then, is vital to determine our motivation.  It’s also wise to wrestle with negative thoughts like ‘A chocolate is the only way I can make it through the rest of the day’ which may sabotage us.

Practical Steps for Building Good Habits and Breaking Bad Ones

Charles Duhigg, author of ‘The Power of Habit’ refers to ‘keystone habits’ or those “small changes or habits that people introduce into their routines that unintentionally carry over into other aspects of their lives.”  These create a domino effect that change every area of our lives – small habits can have a massive impact. If the habit results in fulfilment and it is easy, then it is more likely to ‘stick’. A familiar example of a ‘keystone habit’ is exercise. When we start habitually exercising, even as infrequently as once a week, we often start changing other, unrelated patterns in our lives. For instance, we tend to start eating better and arriving at school/work earlier. We feel less stress, grow more patient and even spend less money. Exercise, as a ‘keystone habit’, triggers widespread change.

James Clear’s suggests the following:

  • Figure out, specifically, what we want to achieve. What are our intentions?
  • Be conscious of our environments (for example. avoid stocking the freezer with ice cream if we’re trying to break the junk food habit)
  • Start very small and be patient. Don’t make enormous changes immediately.
  • Celebrate achievements throughout the journey and invite friends to support us.
  • Reward ourselves.

The journey is always worthwhile!

Works Cited

Building Good Habits: 10 Tips for Lasting Change. (2013, June 30). Sparring Mind. https://www.sparringmind.com/good-habits/

Clear, J. (2018). Atomic Habits. Penguin Publishing Group.

Davenport, B. (2020, November 8). How To Make Good Habits Stick: 11 Secrets From Research. Live Bold and Bloom. https://liveboldandbloom.com/11/habits/how-to-make-good-habits-stick

Duhigg, C. (2012). The power of habit : why we do what we do in life and business. Random House.

Improvement Pill. (2017, August 26). 3 Habits That Will Change Your Life. Www.youtube.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7DSscQlSZR4&ab_channel=ImprovementPill

Modgil, Dr. R. (2013). Why new habits are so hard to stick to. Bbc.co.uk. https://www.bbc.co.uk/ideas/videos/why-new-habits-are-so-hard-to-stick-to/p07zqc7w

Proctor, B. (2015, March 31). A Habit You Simply MUST Develop. Www.youtube.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gzj7zP5BXdc&ab_channel=ProctorGallagherInstitute

Rutledge, T. (2023, March 16). The 7 Habits of Health and Happiness | Psychology Today Australia. Www.psychologytoday.com. https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/the-healthy-journey/202303/the-7-habits-of-health-and-happiness

Team Credible. (2018, April 14). 10 Habits Of All Successful People! Www.youtube.com. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dk20-E0yx_s&ab_channel=TeamFearless

Waters, L. (n.d.). Visible Wellbeing. Lea Waters AM, PhD. https://www.leawaters.com/visible-wellbeing

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